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The Example of Saint Joseph, Husband of Mary

This week we celebrate the feast day of St. Joseph the Husband of Mary. I would like to reflect therefore this week on the meaning of a Catholic Husband. Husbands should model Joseph when it comes to being a good SPOUSE. He respected, and loved Mary. Jesus Christ taught us to love one another and that includes loving your spouse.

1.      Love Your Wife - Loving your wife takes more than just words. Do things that make her happy and make her life easier. Show her respect.

2.      Ask Her - Ask your wife what her needs and wants are. You do not have to guess.

3.      Pray - Pray alone for and together with your wife. God can help you through anything. Pray this Marriage Prayer. God please bless this marriage in warmth and strength. Give us guidance, love, and understanding to be the best that we can be. Be with us through the difficult moments and the beautiful ones. Teach us that marriage is a loving process and challenge. Thank you God. Amen.

4.      Talk to Her - Tell your wife what is happening in your life. You can talk about your work, hobbies, hopes, fears, religion, and more. She won't know what is going on if you don't talk to her.

5.      Treat Her like a Queen - Help make your wife feel how much you're in love with her. Treat her like she is the most important person in your life, because she is.

6.      Help with the Children - Raising the children is not “her job”. Be a great father and teach your children how to be a good spouse by example. Being a father is a fun but responsible position. Too many times society wants to downplay the role of fatherhood. Children do need their fathers. Fathers are essential to the development of happy children and successful adults. Here are some tips to help you be a better father.

a.       Cherish your marriage. The most wonderful gift you can give to your children is a happy marriage. Your sons will learn how to treat their wives, and your daughters will know how to be treated.

b.      Enjoy your children. Men often fall into protector and provider mode. Enjoying the children is easily forgotten. Children grow up very fast. Enjoy each moment!

c.       Educate your children about Catholicism and how it has benefitted you. Be a good role model by attending Mass and acting as a good Christian person. Actions speak louder than words. Examine how you act and decide if it is the way you want your children to behave.

d.      Have a sense of humor. Life is too short to be continuously serious. Laugh often because your children will appreciate this. Laughing is healthy for the family.

e.       Love your children. Create a daily ritual of telling your children how much you love and appreciate them. Your loving nature is bound to encourage them to be loving themselves.

7.      Honest & Faithful - Don't even think about betraying your wife. Adultery is the worst sin and will destroy trust in your marriage.

8.      Gentle - Be a kind and gentle man. Forgive easily. No one is perfect, and accept your wife's faults.

9.      Attend Mass - Make sure you are responsible and attend Mass and confession. Being a good Catholic can only help you be a good husband.


Fr. Dermot


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